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Welcome to the Secret World of Autism

Finding Cooper's Voice is a safe, humorous, caring and honest place where you can celebrate the unique challenges of parenting a special needs child.  Because you're never alone in the struggles you face. And once you find your people, your allies, your village....all the challenges and struggles will seem just a little bit easier.

As a Sibling to a Brother With a Disability

By Amanda Owen / November 28, 2022 /

One day, a friend asked me “what is the hardest part of being a sibling to a brother with a disability?” Without hesitation I quickly answered, living in fear. Still to this day, even at 38 years old, I have the same exact fear as I did in my sunflower decorated room when I was eight. What happens to my brother if something happens to my parents? This is my deepest fear, one that comes with so many factors. But I don’t really talk about it.  Like… I fear that…

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The Question I Get Asked as a Special Needs Mom

By Kimberly Marler / November 18, 2022 /

The number one question I get asked is, do you want more kids? It’s a very tricky subject. It’s something that I struggle with daily if I’m being honest, something I’ve intensely prayed about. I’ve always loved the idea of a bunch of kids running around.  Ever since I was a little girl I wanted six kids. I wanted to adopt two and birth four. I didn’t grow up wanting to be a foster parent. Actually, that desire didn’t come until much later in life. But God opened that door…

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The Long Game of Parenting

By Rebekah Holmes / November 17, 2022 /

Often, to me, it feels like raising children can be likened to playing a long game. Solid parenting seems to be an exhausting process of doing “all the right things” and then having hope that we will see the fruits of our many labored years down the road. Sure, there are hints along the path that we’re heading in the right direction. Although, it will be decades before we really know if all of the encouragement, guiding, talking, showing, loving and repeating things ad nauseam (“hands are not for hitting!”)…

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My Biggest Fears For My Autistic Son

By Tonya Andrews / November 16, 2022 /

Dear Sully, I hope you get to experience what it’s like to have a true friend. I hope you get to experience what it’s like to fall in love and be loved in return unconditionally. I hope we get to attend your wedding someday and be those proud parents of the groom. I hope we get to stand in the hospital room and hold our beautiful grandbabies who have a huge heart and are extremely intelligent just like you. I hope you get to experience what it’s like to live…

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Autism After 40: “Where Did That Come From?”

By Author / November 15, 2022 /

Dad here.  Big Dude is a perpetual three-year-old but many times we see him mature and show a different side of himself that makes Mom and me scratch our heads and ask rhetorically, “Where did that come from?” One such ritual is Big Dude’s insistence that I am fully dressed for the day from the moment we greet each other. Big Dude picks out my shirt. There are several that are his favorites. He chooses my trousers, shoes, and socks. If I am standing he will often push me gently…

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5 Key Things Autism Siblings Wish Parents Did Differently

By Mishka Sibert / November 14, 2022 /

5 Key Things Autism Siblings Wish Parents Did Differently. Note: Autism siblings in this article refer to: – neurotypical siblings, autistic siblings, neurodivergent siblings AND those that are undiagnosed but “treated” as neurotypical In 2016 I hit my rock bottom. Even though I lived in my dream city, London, I was completely burned out. My own mother didn’t recognize me, I was battling with sudden panic attacks, anxiety and depression. Little I knew it was a blessing in disguise.  This was a pivotal moment for me to start diving deep…

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What It Is Like Raising A Child With Autism

By Laura Costas / November 11, 2022 /

What is it like raising a child with autism? It’s everything at once. It’s glimmers of hope. It’s heartbreaking. It’s celebrating the big and little wins. It’s grieving what you thought would be but isn’t. It’s loving your child as they are with your entire being. It’s sometimes yearning for ‘normalcy’. It’s elation. It’s despair. It’s utter exhaustion beyond imagination. It’s gratitude. It’s loneliness. It’s inspiring. It’s crying yourself to sleep for fear about the future when we’re gone. It’s love. It’s sometimes no progress and lots of regression. It’s coming…

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My Deepest Fears Lie in Motherhood

By Jaime Ramos / November 10, 2022 /

I stood alone on a dark bridge on a warm summer night. I listened to the creek below as it attempted to drown out the sound of my children and their cousin, playing several yards away. We were at an unfamiliar park for a small family gathering. I left my two kids with my husband and some family to walk across the park and get some alone time, a rarity for any mother. As I wandered, I came across the bridge surrounded by tall trees, which blocked out any street…

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The Harsh Reality of Autism and Friendship

By Anonymous Writer / November 9, 2022 /

About a year ago, my daughter was invited to her first school birthday party since the pandemic.  It was a relief but my heart also skipped a beat. I had feared not being invited for so long and kept hoping if it did happen she wouldn’t notice.  I was nervous but she wanted to go. She was in second grade and still in a general education class at the time. This was going to be a party filled with typical kids and their parents.  I was on edge the entire…

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To Those Who Turn

By Wendy Wyler / November 8, 2022 /

To those little ones–those brave little  Children–whose shadows stretch  longer and higher than the wisest & oldest grown-ups— To those little ones that take my daughter’s hand–wait patiently and without knowing—  never give up— on her.  Your hearts are bigger and brighter than the biggest  apple on the tree.  To those little ones who turn my daughter’s head In the right direction– Who lift her chin to make sure that she too gets to see the greatness of your  Tower– and how good you did! and to those who see…

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