Posts Tagged ‘Meltdown’
Reduce Stress & Meltdowns with a Visual Schedule App
Do You Feel Like You’re Always Nagging Your Child? So often I hear from parents, “I have to constantly nag or it won’t get done…” Keeping neurotypical kids on track is a struggle and truth is that it’s usually harder with special needs kids. But does it have to be so hard? The answer is no. It doesn’t. There are so many tools out there, we’re just not using them with our kids. You’ve probably seen visual schedules in the classroom and if your kiddo goes to therapy you’ve seen…
Read MoreI Can Choose To Learn
When I think of the great teachers I have had throughout my life, I think of the typical ones many of us have had. A high school teacher. A family member. Someone we look up too but have never met. But if I was to truly answer the question honestly, I would tell you that my greatest teacher has been my son Cooper. He is 10. His autism was discovered at age 3, although it was no secret when the paper was slid across the table to us. It was…
Read MorePetition: BAN Videos of Children’s Autism Meltdowns
Imagine you are having your worst day. You lose your job, furnace breaks, your dog runs away and your spouse asks for a divorce. You are clearly struggling. And then someone asks you a question that you clearly don’t care about and you lose it on them. You yell. You get angry. You really go at it. Not your finest moment, right? Now imagine someone films it and puts it on social media. How would that make you feel? Vulnerable. Exposed. Embarrassed. Humiliated. Hello, my name is Kate and I…
Read More10 Things That Helped Me During Meltdowns As An Autistic Child
One of the more common questions I get asked as a professional speaker and autism self-advocate is about my communication challenges. After this question though the majority of the questions are about my previous meltdowns due to sensory-overload. As a nonverbal child until I was 3, most people think my main obstacle was communication when actually it was sensory integration dysfunction. My main challenges included loud noises, inclement weather, bright lights and not being able to be bathed until 18 months old due to the textural feeling of water on…
Read MoreThe Neurotypical’s Meltdown
I am NOT a “visual person.” My husband sees everything, even the hidden structure of a complex machine simply based on form, function, and the noise it makes. My husband is NOT a “listener.” I hear everything, even the raw truth betrayed by single word choice. Yin and yang. Peas and carrots. Amy and Sheldon. I may get the gold star for daily grinding, but he has saved my life more times than I can count, literally and figuratively. If I am the trusty ole’ engine, he is the emergency…
Read MoreWhat I Don’t Say
Autism is complex with many different angles and moving parts…as are those on the spectrum. All uniquely beautiful in their own way. My husband and I had a tough conversation today about all the parts we do not tell our friends and family…..the hard stuff. It is not my story to tell. It is his. My son’s. Sometimes I do have to share. To his teachers, to family and sometimes to friends. I never want to share that stuff. The raging meltdowns. Sometimes over something as small as a toy…
Read MoreThe Beauty in a Sibling
Because of our son Jack’s autism and sensory issues, one of the most difficult tasks for him is spending time at doctor’s appointments. When we bring him, he has severe anxiety; accompanied by lots of tears, screaming, tantrums and sometimes self-injurious behavior. It is heart breaking. Now, this may sound crazy…but because of this, in addition to all of his own appointments, I make sure to bring Jack to all of his siblings visits as well. You’re probably thinking WHY?! Right? Well, I do this in hopes to desensitize Jack…
Read MoreThere is an Exhaustion in Forever
It’s 12:49 pm here. I just crawled into his bed and wrapped my arms tightly around him as he sleeps. A much needed nap. I feel his deep breaths go in and out against my chest. His course hair tickling my chin. The smell of syrup still on his cheeks, now covered in salt from crying. The smell of sweat. He is drenched. I let my breath out. The one I’ve been holding for over an hour now. We are home. Everyone is safe. We survived. On this beautiful Saturday…
Read MoreI Saw You Judge Us
I saw you. We got in line behind you at one of the snack stands. You had three kids and another adult with you. Your kids were calm. Patient. Quiet. Speaking politely. I saw you. I saw the look on your face change from smiles to annoyance as my three year old began to get very active…trying to run. I saw you. I saw you roll your eyes as his meltdown started. I saw the nasty look you shot our way before muttering something to your companion. I saw the…
Read MoreRegret, Remorse, Repentance
Every trip to the store ends the same way – with my son screaming and flailing on the floor. It is inevitable and without fail. It doesn’t matter what kind of distractions I use, what type of approach or discipline, he is a ticking time bomb, and within 15 to 20 minutes I will need to leave. It makes it impossible to finish any type of trip to the store or anywhere else really. I would be completely mortified when he screamed, eventually leaving the store in desperation with a…
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