Posts Tagged ‘Special Needs Parenting’
Thank You Influential Teacher
Dear Influential Teacher, I know what it’s like to live in a bubble of the typical. A typical day, a typical child, a typical life. I know what it’s like to go through the year, losing the will to invest in the kids we have trouble connecting with…those who aren’t self-motivated, involved, and actively engaged in the lesson…those who don’t see us giving our all, lesson after lesson, paper cuts, ink stains, broken copy machines, fire drills, back talk, and all. I know what it’s like to overlook those who…
Read MoreThe Decision To Have More Children
I had always dreamed of having many children. For the longest time my magic number was six. As I grew older, the number changed but I still wanted at least three kids. And my husband felt the same way. We married young and spent our first few years just having fun. We wanted to wait a few years before we started our family. A few years into our marriage we were surprised with my pregnancy. But we were so happy. We were finally living our dream of having a family.…
Read MoreLove Will Always Conquer the Grief
I had a dream a few weeks ago that I’ve never had, and have thought about ever since. You woke up and sat at the end of the kitchen table with me while I was drinking my coffee. I asked you how you slept and you answered me. You asked me to make you breakfast, and we sat and talked without an iPad screen between us. You told me about your friends at school and how you think the little blonde girl in your class from last year likes you…
Read MoreWhat if you Didn’t Need Me Anymore?
My son, So many changes are happening at our house right now. Your brother is starting kindergarten in three days. You are getting a new brother in five weeks. We are still settling into our new house. And yet, with you and I, nothing has changed. We are still inseparable. I am still your person. I’ve spent time today thinking about my role as your mama. And your brothers. Sawyer is five going on fifteen. He is social. He has so many friends. Many whom ring our doorbell daily. I…
Read MoreThe Six Most Impactful Statements Ever Said to Me (VIDEO)
Did you know that one sentence, one statement, one insult, one negative or positive comment can change the course of your life? I’ve learned that profoundly over the last seven years. My amazing kid is autistic and nonverbal. We are on our own path. We are paving our own way through this world. And many things that have been said to me over the years have changed that path. They’ve made me angry. They’ve made me smile. A few of them even leveled me so ferociously that I couldn’t get…
Read MoreDemanding a Seat at the Table
When my son was diagnosed with autism, I remember this almost immediate pressure to become part of the club. To advocate. To take a stance for or against something. And this mama wanted nothing to do with any of it. My son was three years old. We were still trying to wrap our heads around autism and figure out what worked for him. We didn’t know what was wrong with the system. We were just surviving. Our lives were hard. Our days were long followed by even longer nights. And…
Read MoreI Thought I Knew About Autism
I was heartbroken when my son was diagnosed with autism. You want to know why? Because of what I thought I knew about it. I had an idea in my head of what autism was. And boy was I wrong. There were a lot of things I didn’t know. The main thing was, I thought that people with autism couldn’t show affection. Or didn’t want to. I thought it was hard for everyone on the spectrum to make connections with others. The minute that the doctor told me that Carter…
Read MoreResidential Treatment Made us Stronger
In May, Margaret shared the agonizing decision her family made to place their son William in residential treatment. He was admitted on March 13th. Two hours away from their home. They knew he may be there for six months or more. Margaret gave us a glimpse inside her world. A world that many parents don’t understand. “It was unfathomable just a mere year or so ago that I would ever consider “sending my son away” for treatment. He’d be with people we didn’t know. We wouldn’t know what was happening…
Read MoreI Want You To Make Me Go Away Mommy
Today, I picked up my five year old son with autism from preschool, screaming, hyperventilating, and distraught. His one and only best friend decided he didn’t want to play with Jackson today. He’d found other friends he’d rather play legos with. That amazing friend is so wonderfully typical. Jackson didn’t understand the simplicity and normality of his sweet friend’s behavior. You see, my sweet, friendly, lover of life and all people in it, son, enjoys being around ALL children. But he will forever be the person to truly appreciate and…
Read MoreI Used to Hide my Son from the World
I used to hide my son from the world. That sounds terrible, I know. But there was a brief period of time that I felt better by keeping him cooped up. In my house, I didn’t need to feel scared. I didn’t need to compare. I didn’t need to constantly think and ponder and wonder what the future held. In my house, he was my perfect, beautiful child. There was nothing wrong with him. He was happy and that’s all that mattered. I remember the first time I realized something…
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