I Hope My Autistic Son Finds True Friendships


As he sat on the buddy bench for a rest, my heart broke a little. I imagined him sitting here by himself, yearning for a friend.

Someone who understands and accepts him. Someone other than his Mom, Dad, brother and sisters.

I find it hard to build and maintain friendships and relationships. I can’t imagine how hard it is for someone who has difficulty communicating. But, I know he will find his way and learn to build and forge friendships, the Stalen way.

It takes someone special to see beyond the challenges instead of just seeing the challenges; to see the whole person. I’m hoping for that special person for my son, or special people.

We have had brief tastes of friendship. Invitations to a party, a child reading Stalen a book, a child sitting beside him to eat a snack, a child who told his parents all about his friend Stalen.

A true heart connection lies at the basis of friendship and that is what I’m hoping for for Stalen.

A friend who will giggle when he tells them a joke on his AAC.

A friend who will sit beside him at eat their snack while Stalen is hooked up to his feeding pump.

A friend that won’t blink twice at his stimming and arm flapping.

A friend who thinks his super hero ostomy bag cover is cool.

A friend that can come to Dairy Queen with us on Fridays and run through the sprinkler on hot days.

A friend who will see that together they can have fun, go on adventures, and support and encourage each other.

A friend who always sits next to him on the buddy bench.


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Chrystal Venator

Chrystal Venator is a proud Canadian, wife, Mom, Step-Mom, and Parent Advocate. Her son Stalen is 7 years old, amazing, autistic, and non-speaking. Since his diagnosis, Chrystal has become a full time stay at home Mom. She works with her son to increase his independence, to acquire new skills, and to help him become more proficient with his speech device-all while having fun! She is committed to raising autism awareness, and educating others by sharing her journey with her son.

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  1. Courtney hamilton on September 15, 2022 at 10:38 am

    I wish you lived where I live my son would love to be his friend I read him the story about him and he said he would do those things with him. There are people that will understand him and would love to be true friends with him without making him feel uncomfortable. You seem like a Amazon mom and tell your son Nate from Florida loves him

  2. Stalen’s Way on September 15, 2022 at 11:24 am

    Thank you so much. Your son is very kind and caring we hope to meet someone just like him. 💙