An Open Letter to Those who Bully People With Special Needs

Dear Bully, When I was in public school I used to be bullied by people like you. You would see me in the corner, usually trying to keep to myself and wonder why I was there. Other times you would see me having issues reading out loud in class and snicker while I tried to pronounce different words. You’d take my inability to understand sarcasm as a way to get me in trouble. Worst of all, you’d make me feel like an outsider when more than anything I wanted to…

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Dreams Don’t Die, They Change

We all remember that day. The visit, the phone call, or the letter. And you hear or read those words: “Your child is on the autism spectrum.” I know I will never forget. I can still hear the Dr. saying, “We can go two different routes here. We can give the diagnosis of PDD/NOS or Autism.” I think he was truly trying to spare us that ominous word. I voted for Autism. I knew enough to know that the diagnosis of autism was our ticket to services. See, this all…

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I Don’t Mind You Staring At My Brother’s Disability

Living 36 years of my life having a brother with a disability has made me embrace the things I can’t change.  Being the sibling of a brother with a disability has taught me many life lessons, and one of those lessons I’m sharing today in this blog.  There is one thing that all families who have a child/sibling with a disability have experienced more often than not…….People who stare.   When they notice a difference in the people around them, they stare.  When they observe or hear a different form of…

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Each Person With ASD Is A Raw Gemstone

I wrote an essay recently about how my 16-year old son Jack got a job, and then a promotion, at local restaurant. This might not seem like a big deal, but Jack has autism. He struggles with regulation, executive functioning, severe anxiety, and communication. In other words, he jumps around a lot, he has little to no working memory, he’s afraid of loud noises, and he can be a little, uh, abrupt. A few days ago, I got an email from a lovely young woman, describing her own journey to…

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