Join Coop’s Troops!


A year ago in January I was going through, once again, some pretty brutal bullying online.

I had written a post about jealousy in the special needs world. I had said that sometimes I get jealous of 8 year old boys with blonde hair and hazel eyes who can speak and ask questions and talk my year off about Star Wars.

I said that I can be fine, feet planted fully in acceptance, invincible really, living in my special needs bubble…and then…out of nowhere, I’ll see the other side.

Eight year old boys talk. They sing songs. They have friends. They make play dates. They have social lives.

nd wham. I’m done.

Anyhow, a bunch of people on the internet world got really mad at me. How could I be jealous. They called me a monster. Some were mothers. Some not. And they sent me death threats. And told me to shut up or else.

I thought about quitting. I had my finger on the button to end all of this. Then I learned about a new tool. I could launch a supporter page. It would be filled with people who wanted to learn about autism and be supportive and help each other. I was scared. But I did it. I leaned into the fear.

Last night, I met 7 beautiful, strong, women who are part of my group in Orlando. Six are mothers of children like my Cooper. Smart, silly, busy, and complicated. The other woman wants to learn more. She works at a store who hires adult with special needs. She wants to do better. So she turned to my group.

These meet ups of Coop’s Troops members are happening all across the US. Women who want to support each other. Talking about sleep deprivation , aggressions, worry and fear and all of the JOYS, over a glass of wine. Isn’t that amazing? It almost takes my breath away. There was no justifying last night. No ending every sentence with, ‘but I love my child.’ There was just friends being made.

This is what can come from fear. A community of people who bring the light everywhere they go.

I’m honored to have met you Katie, Sherica, Sheryl, Tiffany, Shannon, Jenny and Kacie.

Thank you for being with me on this once very lonely journey.

Join Coop’s Troops on Facebook by clicking HERE! It’s honestly the best group of people. We are moms, dads, teachers, therapists, medical professionals, grandparents and friends. We support each other and give hope.

We have a wellness club and a book club and do live interviews every week. We are always up to something!

We’d love if you check it out!

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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