The Calm to our Crazy
Autism has taken our family on quite the adventure the last six years and right in the beginning of it, I gave birth to our second son. But through it all, you have been the calm to our crazy.
It quickly became apparent the you are Jayden’s person, what a huge job that really is. It is never-ending and always demanding.
The connection you have with Jayden is so hard to describe it is like you two have a magnetic force drawing you to each other whenever you are in his sight.
Even when he is having his worst moment you have a way to break through it and reach him, you are the calm to our crazy.
I know it used to be easier when he was smaller and more portable since he always wants you to pick him up but you literally take my breath away some days watching you handle him the way you do.
Most kids ask for their Mommy but not our Jayden, he wants his “dad-dy” and he will tell you over and over.
To the point ABA has to take data on it and has made a program, and when he was in traditional public-school data was taken on “crying for daddy.”
I can admit I used to be a little jealous especially when he did not even have a word for mom but seeing Jayden with his dad is the purest form of love I have ever seen.
It has a way to just melt your heart.
Even our youngest son Jaxon knows when Jayden becomes anxious to run and get Daddy, because you are the calm to our crazy.
I am the one with the lists, the charts, and the notes. I am the one always worried about something, but you are the calm to our crazy.
You are the puzzle piece that makes our family work as well as it does.
There are very little limits to what you will do for our family especially for our children. You even played Santa for Jayden and other special needs children last year so they could enjoy Santa at their own speed (after I volunteered you when you were at work).
When Jayden would go into the hospital for his seizures, the hospital staff would always expect his Momma to stay the night with him but nine out of ten times it was his Daddy who stayed with him because that how this dynamic works.
You are the calm to our crazy.
When Jayden was in school, he had an amazing aide and she would walk Jayden to my car every day and as soon and he she handed him off to me he would instantly say “I want Daddy.”
We would both have a good laugh every day.
It got hectic there for a while and your job for the Navy took you away a lot.
Some days I did not know if we would make it through the hour, let alone the day. But then you would come home and everything would somehow, slowly fall back into place.
Some days are still crazy and leave me shaken but there is always one constant, Daddy.
The calm to our crazy.
Written by, Kirby Morgan
My name is Kirby and I am the mom to two amazing little boys Jayden who is seven, Jaxon who is four and I have a have one bonus daughter Kayla who is seventeen from my husband’s previous marriage. My son Jayden was diagnosed with Autism at two years and four months old. I was pregnant with Jaxon when I received Jayden’s diagnosis and Jaxon was born four months after Jayden’s diagnosis. You can follow our journey at Beyond Autism Jayden’s Journey.
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