The Different Stages of Accepting Autism
I had no idea that there would be so many different stages surrounding my son’s autism.
For example I thought getting the diagnosis would be the hardest part. I really did.
I thought going through the pain of realizing something was wrong, making the phone call for the appointment, bringing my baby to be evaluated and hearing the words, ‘yes he is autistic,’ would be the hardest parts we would ever have to go through. We would get help and it would be fine. I was wrong.
There are so many stages that happened after that.
Learning that my son was nonverbal and that some kids never ever talk shocked me. Finding out the severity of his autism was another one.
And then accepting forever. That one is still so real for me.
I am sure there are many more stages to come. I have no doubt.
Take a listen…
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Those parents are out there. Speaking as a sibling, someone on the other side of the “forever” you’re currently reckoning with. My mother owns a 501(c)3 nonprofit AFH for men with developmental disabilities, and there are MANY people like Cooper out there in the world. There is a place for you, and a community for you, and I hope you find the support you need in your journey.
Also, for context, I am a Sawyer- my brother Austin is 30.
I’m hoping you find some more friends to share your circle! I recently wrote you a highlight of the year and I actually felt guilty writing it bc I know you and I did all the same things, but with different results. I really wanted to share some hope bc when my son was diagnosed I searched for positive stories and there wasn’t a lot out there. Just know that it’s almost comical how similar our sons are even tho coop is more sever the behaviors are usually very similar around the same time, so I really enjoy your posts!
You are not alone.
My 3rd child has autism with severe anxiety, crippling rigidity and OCD. The anxiety and OCD actually started about three years ago and has made all of our lives very very small. More so than the autism actually. It is heartbreaking.