An Unexpected Reminder That’s It’s Going to Be Okay

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I think sometimes we end up exactly where we are supposed to be. Maybe even just for a moment.

Today, as Cooper’s mom, the world had something to show me.

This morning we brought our younger son to see Beauty and the Beast. And I’ll tell you, when you have four kids, it can be a bit tricky to make one on one time work. Like moving mountains honestly. But we made it happen.

As we sat waiting for the show to start, I noticed the group sitting down behind us. A woman and four young adults. I knew instantly that they were like my Cooper.

As she gave them directions and helped them feel at ease amongst the chaos of hundreds of kids, I listened. She was kind. She was patient.

I turned around after a few moments and asked her if she worked in a day program.

For a few minutes we chatted about the program, her role, and her clients.

I thanked her. From a mom.

See as my own autistic son ages, the fear of him growing up in an often unkind world terrifies me. Someone recently told me I’m catastrophizing by worrying. I don’t think that’s necessarily true. But either way…I’m scared.

Seeing this group today helped me. It eased my heart and worry. It was good. It was what I needed to see.

Throughout the whole show the young man behind me sang loudly and beautifully. He knew the words to every song. I felt his joy. I smiled every so often at my husband when we made eye contact.


We were both thinking it.

It’s going to be okay. This I know in my mind. I just need to get my heart caught up.

Today helped.

And the show was amazing. My five year old gave it 2 thumbs up.
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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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