He is Home to Me

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My middle son has been having some big feelings lately.

He is 8 years old and sandwiched in between two very big personalities.

I think sometimes it can be lonely to be the easy one.

His dad and I are working for hard to make sure he knows how magnificent and treasured he is.

Last night a movie on the couch with popcorn and tickles. This morning a doughnut date, just the two of us.

And lots of conversation. Which is the best part in my opinion. I love hearing his thoughts and answering his questions.

This morning we talked about hockey and school and how chocolate long johns are the best.

He asked why Grandpa is sick and what to do when someone says something mean to him on the bus.

He asked about baby sister and if he can someday have a bedroom in the basement.

And then…out of the blue…

‘Mama, Cooper feels safe to me. I sleep with him every night because he is warm and snuggly and he makes me feel good.

He’s like my…home. Does that make sense?’

‘Yes Sawyer, it does. Cooper is home to me too.’

‘During the day I protect him. I’m like the big brother…sorta.

Not because I’m 8 and he’s 10, but because I help him. But at night, he makes me feel safe. I know no matter what happens, he will be waiting for me to go to bed. I love it.’

When I think about gifts, truly beautiful gifts, I think about these two.

There’s just something magical there.

If this story touches you, and for more just like it, grab my book, Forever Boy, off amazon. Sawyer’s relationship with Cooper is a big part of it: Forever Boy

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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