Big Things in Our World

So today, we did something really brave. Something that’s been on our goal list for years.

We took our son Cooper to a restaurant. Now I know to most folks that’s not a big, huge deal. But to us, it is.

Cooper went to his last restaurant at 18 months old. We were basically kicked out. It was humiliating.

We tried one other time years later but had to leave mid meal. So it’s been 8 long years. And been a goal for the last few.

Sitting. Waiting. Eating. Noise. Smell. People. So many inhibitors. But today, he did it. And we enjoyed every second.

I am so proud of this kid. Like scream from the rooftops proud.

He wore his mask in and out.

He picked our table. And sat until we ordered.

He tried a drink of water out of their cup/straw…which is hard for him. New and different is hard. But we coaxed him through and once he realized it was water he cheered and high fived everyone!

He went for a quick walk around the place to get a feel for it. And even agreed to not climb the staircase to the office. Which was good because our son loves stairs. So much so that he he tends to make a mad dash up then when he sees them. But not today.

He ate the restaurant’s chicken tenders…which were nothing like the ones we eat at home. He willingly ate the 10 or so bites we cut for him and then focused on finishing his ketchup. And he used a fork, which is a riot, because forks aren’t all that important in our world. Very classy!

We used a timer and a list to get through the last 15 minutes.

His impulsivity has dropped dramatically and it allows him to relax a bit and enjoy us and his surroundings.

I think for so many of us, we think the biggest, most exciting parts of life, are scoring a goal or getting an A on a test or landing a new job or so on.

Well, this was all of it put together for our son. He did it.

We are so proud of you Cooper. When I think back to the really hard days I wish I could have had a glimpse of today. Because you are the best.

This was our high school graduation and super bowl put together.

Never give up hope. Even if it takes 8 years.

Thank you Fireside Social House for the hospitality!

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