The Autism Merry-Go-Round

Some days, it feels like we are climbing onto the exact same merry-go-round that we were on yesterday, and the day before that and the one before that. 

The same music, same speed, same smells, and my son would undoubtedly choose the same horse to ride every single time.  We continue, round and round, stuck on a loop.

Sounds peaceful, right? Until the song changes, an undesirable sound or image comes into the loop. Or the lights are too bright or too dim. Something familiar is missing, out of place or different than how we left it. 

Experiencing these things can completely stop our boy’s little world from turning.

Sometimes I see them coming, these are same battles we fight daily. Like keeping the lights all on or off (no in-between) or which clothes to wear or new food exposure. But there are always new ones, lurking and ready to cause chaos at any moment. 

Like the time the dog peed on the rug and my son lost his mind because the rug was missing.

It’s funny, how something so seemingly predictable as the daily routine in this autism life always finds a way of surprising us, throwing us off course, breaking us down or teaching us something new.

This is what autism does in our world every single day.

To recover from the chaos, our son finds a new loop.   He seeks comfort in the reliable, the orderly, the routine.

Lining up, counting, reciting, and repetition.

Stimming (repetition of physical movements, sounds, or words, or the repetitive movement of objects) occurs more often when he is anxious or overwhelmed.  Sameness calms him. The reliability of numbers and the order they belong in, lining up toys, crayons, apple slices, you name it. This works wonderfully to regulate him, until something is missing.

Then our house in turned upside down looking for a red crayon, a puzzle piece, or a train the size of my pinky that is missing from the lineup.  A well-loved DVD that has been toddler-handled one too many times, or the red spatula I’m cooking with that he suddenly needs to be back with all the other red cooking utensils.

Currently, one of the only shows he tolerates is the movie Incredibles 2, but only for the first 8 minutes and 21 seconds. He watches while clutching the remote so he is certain he can stop it at the exact point when necessary.  The rest of us would sure love to know what else happens in that movie!

I think he does this to try and memorize it all, so he can interpret it more easily the next time he sees it. So he can predict the music, volume changes, songs, words and actions of the characters. He’s also been taking that DVD cover with him everywhere. To bed, the bathroom, the kitchen table. It’s his new treasure.

One day, this will change. He will no longer tolerate this movie and will have moved on to the next little obsession, just like he has done before.  None of us know when or why, it just happens. 

It’s fascinating that he uses these techniques to block out other things happening in his environment that are more difficult for him to process. The most common sensory processing difficulty for him is sound, but it can also be light, heat, stressful emotions, or just over-stimulation.

Similarly, he eats the same foods each day, and I mean SAME, right down to the brand.  It’s a real pain when these brands decide to change their packaging or worse, are discontinued. 

Then there are times when he just stops eating something he’s been eating for years. I suppose even he can grow tired of the unvaried.

Our sameness is unpredictable. But every day, we will buy a ticket, hold on tight, and ride that merry-go-round with him.

Written by, Lauren Emmett

You can follow Lauren and Wilson’s journey at Wilson’s Climb or on Facebook at facebook.com/wilsonsclimb  Lauren started a blog to keep everyone updated on her son’s progress and with the dream that it can be one small piece in helping to spread autism awareness around the world.

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