My Kid is Not a Monster

This piece was shared with me by Danielle of Story of Noahism.

I read an awful story this morning and I’m sure some of you in this community have too.

The one about a young boy with autism that was dragged through the hallways of his school by a teacher/para. Another one these stories that we seem to be hearing more and more of lately.

As a parent to a child on the spectrum, these things are terrifying and heartbreaking. And I made the mistake of reading the comments on the article… a “child like that” should just be kept away.

So, here’s a little PSA for those ”delightful” people with those comments…my kid is not a monster.

And just because my son doesn’t do “typical” stuff and may find joy in spinning and looking at the world upside down, it doesn’t make him any less of a person.

Not even one teeny tiny bit.

Just because my son can’t talk, it doesn’t make it okay to talk down to him or act like he’s not even there. His ears work just fine.

Just because my son protests, a lot, does not give someone the right to judge, criticize, belittle, or force him to do things.

Yes, he needs to be pushed, but he’s still just a little boy. A random person would have absolutely no idea how hard he works everyday just to “fit” in.

And just because my son can’t express his feelings, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have them. His feelings get hurt just like yours and mine do.

Autism or not, a child is going to remember something horrible done to them for the rest of their life. And I really, really hope people understand that.

These kids {and adults} are people first.

They already have so much working against them, so be a little empathetic. Educate yourself about disabilities, all of them. And above everything else, just be kind.

Written by, Danielle Mager

Danielle is the proud mama to Noah, a handsome, silly, strong willed, almost three year old who also happens to be on the spectrum. Danielle blogs at story of noahism and shares their journey on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/storyofnoahism/.

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