November 5, 2018

To the Person Who Judged Me

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To the person who judged me,

How could you say it’s my fault my child has Autism? How could you go so low. When I am already at my lowest.

You have no idea the struggles we have went through. You have no idea all the hurdles we’ve had to jump. All the sleepless nights. All the meltdowns. All the frustration.

Being so emotional because your child doesn’t speak, and you have no idea what is wrong. All the doctors and therapy appointments. Feeling so isolated. Wanting to cry 24/7.

Please walk a day in my shoes before you judge me. I know I’m not perfect, but I know I am a wonderful mother to my son.

I am his biggest advocate. I will be his voice when he can’t speak. The progress he has made is so amazing.

Go ahead and judge me. I know I didn’t cause Autism. I know I am a wonderful mother. I know I am doing everything possible for my son.

I will go above and beyond for him. If you can’t understand then I’m sorry for you. I’m sorry you are missing out on the most amazing, caring, and sweet little boy, that I call my son.

Remember before you judge put yourself in my shoes. Don’t down mothers because they have a child with special needs. I will always stand strong.

I will not let you define who I am. I know I am doing an amazing job.

Written by, Emily Ransom

Hello my name is Emily Ransom. I have a three year old son, Kash, who has autism. I wrote this piece when he was diagnosed. I just want to say you are doing an amazing job with Cooper. I always follow your story on Finding Coopers Voice. I started a Facebook page for my son, Kash, called Mama to Kash’s Voice.

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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