Sharing the Realities of our World

Finding Cooper's Voice

We have been having so many wins lately with our severely autistic son. He is thriving. Our family is letting that breath out we have been holding for years. I feel like many parts are actually getting easier. And yet, the roller coaster continues.

Our son had his longest behavior to date yesterday, 10 minutes, and had to be put into a hold. I spent the night feeling guilty. And worrying. And wondering why his life has to be so hard.

Why can’t it just be easy? And as he ages, I know that I can’t always be there to communicate for him. I can’t always be there to keep him safe. It makes me wonder ‘if’ it will ever get easier for him. What is the ‘magic’ solution?

Sometimes I wonder how we got here. I will look at him and think…why? How? Talking about holds, tracking behaviors, going to meetings, replacing iPads. It’s surreal sometimes I guess. The ebbs and flows. The ups and downs. The two steps forward and three steps back. The feeling of never really getting ahead. It can drain a person.

I share the realities of our world friends. And I will always do it with respect, optimism and hope. But sometimes, it’s hard to always wonder if it will ever get any easier.

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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