First Kisses from My Autistic Son
For years I longed for kisses and hugs from my autistic son. But, it never came. He’d gladly receive affection and even ate it up and yes, I was thankful for that. But before autism I just assumed affection came naturally. I had no idea that teaching a child to ‘give’ affection could be a challenge. Or even a skill that needed to be taught.
On top of not willingly showing affection, Cooper simply didn’t know how to actually kiss or hug. Due to his Apraxia, his lips are unable to pucker. His arms are unable to squeeze.
Around age six I sorta accepted that the physical kisses and hugs may always be one sided.
A few weeks ago, after years and years of practice, my sweet boy kissed me unprompted for the first time. He pulled my head down and gave me a huge, sloppy, blowing, smooch on my forehead. It was one of the best moments of my life. He wanted to kiss me. And I’ll never forget that moment as long as I live.
It’s happened once. And honestly, I can’t ask for anymore. I want you to see how amazing severe nonverbal autism can be. It’s nothing to be afraid of. It’s pretty amazing if you ask me.
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