Finding Comfort with Two on the Spectrum


To my amazing little boys,

Oh my beautiful boys. Where do I even begin?

You both are loving, sweet, crazy, energetic, sensitive, hardworking, and special. I know you live a life that is harder than it should be.

Every day when you wake up, you face challenges that I can’t even begin to understand. I’m sure if I understood everything you face between your sensory issues, lack of communication options, and constant need for routine, I would be impressed that you even make it out of bed some days to face this chaotic world.

Along with all of these extra challenges you must deal with, you also have super powers. You are full of strength and perseverance and determination.

Every day you meet challenges head on and you never give up.

But here is what I want you to know. You are not alone on this journey.

See your brother over there? The one laughing and flapping and pacing around the living room. The one that sometimes keeps you from sleeping at night and can be too loud at times for your liking.

Well, I want you to know that he has super powers too. The two of you are on this crazy journey together, facing challenges every day, side by side.

I know at times it may seem like you aren’t even aware of each other, despite being in the same room. I may never see the day that you play a game together, or chase each other around outside on your bikes, or play a game of baseball.

You have many different interests and different challenges.

However, as your mom, I believe you guys know that you have each other.

I think you understand each other in a way that I can’t even fully understand myself. It makes me so happy to know that you will always have each other on this journey.

There will always be a familiar face at therapy and at school. You’ll always have a buddy to attend sensory friendly movies and events with.

When other kids your age are running around the playground and playing tag at recess, you’ll always have someone to sit and swing with you.

If we go to the lake for a fishing trip, there will always be someone sitting next to you, just watching the water flow over the rocks.

If we go to the swimming pool, and all of the kids your age are swimming in the deep end, you’ll still always have a companion with you to splash around in the baby area.

The two of you share the amazing ability to find happiness in the simplest ways.

I hope you find joy and comfort in knowing that you and your brother are on this journey together and you both possess these super powers.

The two of you make an incredible team and you are changing peoples views of autism (even if it’s just in our little community).

You may be incredibly different in so many ways, but you share this life of beauty and unique challenges. You are so lucky to have each other, and I’m even luckier to have you both.

Love, mom

Written by Megan Hufton

Megan live in Wisconsin with her two boys AJ and Asher. They are 6 and 7 and have nonverbal autism. It’s a crazy-chaotic journey with the best two tour guides! Megan shares there journey at Adventures of the Au-some A-squad.

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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