I Blamed Autism for My Divorce

I am sitting here in my living room, feet up in a recliner, drinking a much-needed cup of coffee.

One kiddo is off to school and one is at daycare and my house is finally quiet. I know I should get up and start my work day but I am distracted.

I have been staring at the stack of my divorce papers for 15 minutes. I find a bit of irony in the fact that they are covered with our autistic son’s ‘treasures’.

A few chewed up family pictures, an equally destroyed Nerf gun bullet, a few train DVDs, and a stack of blankies.

Our world is autism. It has been for six years.

For years I blamed the breakdown of my marriage on autism. The sheer stress of it. The weight of it.

The chaos that surrounded us the instant we received the diagnosis. Autism has its own force. I often refer to it as a tornado.

In order to help our son we had to give up complete control of our lives and follow its path.

At times it was all too much. It was more than two people could handle.

I was wrong though. Autism didn’t cause our divorce.

The heartbreak of it did. And the different way that two people perceived grief.  It created a crack in our foundation that grew over time.

A Bit of Foreshadowing

I can’t help but take a little trip down memory lane to when J and I were engaged.

We were married in the Lutheran faith and had to give up our precious weekend to attend a weekend of pre-marital counseling sessions. It was long and seemed completely unnecessary because we were madly in love.

The class was centered on ‘deep’ questions that prompted discussion between couples.  How would you handle a partner with an addiction? Or a partner that lies? A partner who gambles?

We obviously didn’t have those problems since we were best friends so we breezed through. Oh the arrogance of twenty-something kids.

The final question, at the end of weekend was, “how would the two of you handle having a child with special needs?” I can still remember Pastor Phil asking that question.

I can even see him. He said it so casually. So matter-of-factly.

It is burned in my brain now. The foreshadowing is not lost on me.

I remember thinking what a silly question. That wouldn’t happen to us.

We were healthy and invincible. I think we scribbled down on the paper….we’d love that baby just like any other baby.

We were both good people. Huge hearts. And that was that. The class was done and we were off to live our fairy tale life.

We were married. A home was purchased. Careers were started. And babies were born. Our life had begun.

And with a blink of an eye we were the parents to a nonverbal little boy with severe autism and the crack in the foundation of our marriage was formed.

Just like that.

A Crack in the Foundation

To say our son was a challenging baby is an understatement. He didn’t sleep through the night for four years. We functioned in a constant state of exhaustion.

He screamed most of his infancy. He struggled to eat. He struggled to poop.

He had never ending severe ear infections and multiple tubal surgeries. He missed milestones.

We even had a misdiagnosis. And the pressure on our little family started to build.

We chased hope for our son all over the state. It felt like we were living our lives in doctors’ offices. We moved 3 times, all for more services for our kiddo.

God that was hard.

We started to feel the strains of the isolation. We missed the friends that were lost.

We started to disagree on everything. My husband thought we should keep living our pre-autism life.

He saw all of our friends with young babies doing all the things that families do. He wanted that to be us.

He thought our son was fine.  I knew he wasn’t.

I tried for a while though. I would spend events chasing Cooper. Keeping up the act that he was just a busy child. Or I’d sit in the car so Coop’s could watch a DVD.

Or worse yet, I’d have to leave in the middle of the night.

Then the financial strains kicked in. One of us had to quit our job to meet the demands of autism. And boy did that interfere with the high price tag on all the private therapy.

The crack intensified. I could feel the perfect life I had pictured slipping away.

I took the lead on coordinating our son’s care. A role that completely consumed me in the end.

I felt that no one could help Cooper as much as I could. I was the best at it.

I started to feel that everyone else was inferior. I started to hate my husband for his lack of understanding and urgency.

Before we had children one of my favorite things about my husband was his laid back personality. It was the perfect match for my energy.

And after autism it was the thing I hated the most about him.

Riding the Roller Coaster of Autism

No matter how intense our life got he stayed calm. I felt like I was on the roller coaster alone.

I was researching, finding therapies, fighting insurance companies, battling the county and the school district. And no matter what I did I couldn’t get him to sit with me on the ride.

So, I tried harder. I made it my mission.  I had to make him see the severity of our situation.

I started manically sending him blogs and articles to read about autism.  And I’d barely get a nod from him.

He promised he’d read them…but never did.

I’d make him watch Parenthood and YouTube videos of nonverbal kids. He’d barely give it a glance.

Our conversations soon became about our son’s care…and solely his care. I’d talk about new therapies with a renewed spirit almost weekly.

I’d find a new diet or tactic that was going to help our son. My hope would be renewed. I would be on top of the world.

Until it failed. Until I failed.

I Began Carrying it Alone

And with each failure the resentment built between us. He resented my willingness to try new things and I resented his need to keep our son the same. It became easier to carry the weight of autism alone.

I made the decisions. I dealt with the consequences.

I know he wondered what had happened to the woman he married. The woman who was vivacious, fearless and adventurous. What he didn’t know was I barely recognized myself.

What he needed from me hung in the air. Always between us. My husband expected me to get over Autism. He expected me to cry my tears, dust myself off, and keep living.

He didn’t understand that I couldn’t do that. My heart was broken. And his wasn’t. And unbeknownst to us the final crack had surfaced.

I Had Become My Son’s Disability

Somewhere between ages 4 and 5 we became strangers. The resentment got to be too much. And in the blink of an eye we were divorced.

I will not say that having a child with special needs caused our divorce. Because it didn’t. Autism wasn’t the problem. And it didn’t ruin our marriage.

What it did do though was show how two people, who love each other, can react to a given situation. We blamed each other for grieving in our own ways. Neither was wrong.

Parenting a child with a disability is huge and life changing. What we went through was traumatic. That’s a fact.  And through it all we kept our son’s care at the center of our lives. We gave him the best possible life and opportunity. We sacrificed ourselves in the process.

Waving the White Flag

Six months after our divorce was final, after moving again, after the anger, after the ugly crying, after seeing our autistic son finally get the help he needed, we met for lunch.

We had both hit our bottoms.

I had come full circle. I saw what I had become.

I had pushed everyone in my life away to focus on autism. I built the wall around me so high and so strong that I was completely and utterly alone.

I was a martyr waving her white flag.

In a crowded restaurant, over chips and salsa, I told him I couldn’t carry the weight of our son’s disability alone anymore. I felt like a failure.

I had completely given up my life to fix him and at the end of the day he was still severely autistic. I had failed.

I had wrecked my marriage. I had made so many mistakes. I had tried to fill the hole in my heart by chasing a different life. And when I found it, I felt more alone than ever. My son was still severely autistic…just in a different house.

I told him that for years I blamed him for our struggles and ultimately his reaction to our son’s autism.

I blamed him because he was the adult and I couldn’t blame a child. I told him I was wrong. And I cried the tears and said the apology that so needed to be said out loud.

I told him that I felt like I was meant to carry our son’s disability alone. I wasn’t meant to be happy. And that I finally accepted it.

And the man that shows very little emotion reached across the table and put his hand on mine. And just like that my defenses came down and I lost it.

For the first time in this six year journey he said the words I needed to hear.

He thanked me for sacrificing myself for our child. He thanked me for stepping up and fighting when he couldn’t. He apologized for not being the man I needed. And he told me that I saved our son.

I asked him why he didn’t research autism like I did.

His exact words…”I lived Autism Kate. I didn’t need to read about it. It just made me way too sad.”

And just like that it dawned on me that he was on the roller coaster…just in his own way.

I Was Wrong Too

He never left. I had been too clouded by my own grief to see that.

No, he didn’t cry the same amount of tears or agonize like I did. He also didn’t see autism as a problem to be fixed. What he did do was love our son.

He figured out how to connect with him in a way I thought only I could. He sat with him and watched his trains endlessly. He wrestled him and tickled him.

He went to every appointment with me. He never missed one. He stepped up like so many people wouldn’t have done.

He kept his patience during the chaos. He loved his autistic son more than life.

And it dawned on me that he reached acceptance long before I had.

I realized that if we both would have been at my intensity level we would have crashed and burned around our son’s care.

And just like, that the weight was lifted. I let out the breath I had been holding for six long years.

He told me he’d do whatever he needed me to do to help. He said I was no longer alone with autism. We would do it together.

The words of validation that I needed to hear so desperately were finally said out loud.

And, just like that the healing began. Two broken people, loving a perfect little boy, who were so thankful to have failed at divorce. And for the opportunity to try once again.

(Update: Because I know that so many of you are curious, Jamie and I are happily back together. We remarried in 2018. Our separation relieved the pressure that had built up between us. Sometimes two people have to come apart to find out what really matters. We are both incredibly thankful for fresh starts and amazing kiddos.)

Finding Cooper’s Voice is a safe, humorous, caring and honest place where you can celebrate the unique challenges of parenting a special needs child. Because you’re never alone in the struggles you face. And once you find your people, your allies, your village….all the challenges and struggles will seem just a little bit easier. Welcome to our journey. You can also follow us on Facebook and subscribe to our newsletter.

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    April 25, 2017 at 2:32 am
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  • Jamie A Opsommer
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    May 12, 2017 at 4:30 am
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    This post describes me and my marriage so much. Thankfully, we haven't gotten divorced, but there have been times where I too desperately wanted to […] Read MoreThis post describes me and my marriage so much. Thankfully, we haven't gotten divorced, but there have been times where I too desperately wanted to fix my autistic son and didn't understand and resented my husband for not wanting to fix him like I did. I thought he didn't care and maybe I'd be better off doing it on my own. But I see now that he grieved in a different way, like your husband, and that our son doesn't need to fixed. He's fine just the way he is, and he's happy. It was me who wasn't okay with it. My husband loves our son and takes care of him. He cleans up poop and does what needs to be done to manage the chaos of our lives. This autism journey is a hard one and it's understandable that the stress of it can destroy marriages. I'm so grateful for your posts. You validate the difficult feelings I've faced in struggling to accept my life and make it okay. Thank you so much for sharing your life and helping me to feel okay about mine. Read Less

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    July 24, 2017 at 6:17 pm
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    I want to say thanks to Dr. JATTO for everything so far. To everyone who doesn’t believe in spell, I was one of those at […] Read MoreI want to say thanks to Dr. JATTO for everything so far. To everyone who doesn’t believe in spell, I was one of those at first. I wasn’t quite sure if I wanted to do this since I’ve tried others so-called spells casters and they did not work and was a waste of time and money. However, when I read through the testimonials of other people at this website and after I talked to Dr. JATTO who answered all my questions and was very nice about everything, I decided to give it a try. I figured it would be my last try to get my Wife back. So my story is that I was at my office when my Wife wrote me that he wasn’t in love with me and never will be and that he didn’t want to speak or see me again, especially since she was talking to this other guy, When I talked to Dr. JATTO , he let me know which spells would be most appropriate for me and I chose the ones that was to get her back to me and stay with me forever. As soon as he started on the spells, my Wife came back in to my life! It was a miracle to me and I’m so thankful. Things have been going well, and pretty much according to Dr. JATTO. if you asked me or my friends if I would have participated how this happen no one will ever believe it,well right now every thing is all right, KINDLY CONTACT HIM BELOW WITH HIS INFORMATION. WEB_PAGE= https://web.facebook.com/obazespellhome/ EMAIL= [email protected] WHAT'S_APP= +2348159994343 CALL= +2348156994343 GOD BLESS YOU. Read Less

  • ann earnis

    March 5, 2019 at 5:16 pm
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    HOW I GOT MY HUSBAND BACK WITH THE HELP OF PRIEST WISDOM CONTACT ON his email address is [email protected] […] Read MoreHOW I GOT MY HUSBAND BACK WITH THE HELP OF PRIEST WISDOM CONTACT ON his email address is [email protected] ,,, Read Less

  • MICHEAL DONALD

    March 5, 2019 at 5:49 pm
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    When I found Dr. JATTO I was in desperate need of bringing my ex lover back. She left me for another man. It happened so […] Read MoreWhen I found Dr. JATTO I was in desperate need of bringing my ex lover back. She left me for another man. It happened so fast and I had no say in the situation at all. She just dumped me after 7 years with no explanation. I contact Dr JATTO through his Email and WhatsApp and He told me what i need to do before he can help me and i did what he told me, after i provided what he wanted, he cast a love spell to help us get back together. Shortly after he did his spell, my wife started texting me again and felt horrible for what she just put me through. She said that I was the most important person in her life and she knows that now. We moved in together and she was more open to me than before and then she started spending more time with me than before. Ever since Dr. JATTO helped me, my partner is very stable, faithful and closer to me than before. I highly recommends Dr JATTO to anyone in need of help Cure or Relationship problems. Contact him via WEB PAGE= https://web.facebook.com/obazespellhome/ EMAIL= [email protected] WHATSAPP= +2348156994343 CALLS= +2348156994343 TEXT= +2348156994343 Thanks Dr JATTO. Read Less

  • grace

    March 6, 2019 at 4:24 pm
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    I am Mrs Michele GRACE from USA promise to share this testimony all over the world once my husband return back home and today with […] Read MoreI am Mrs Michele GRACE from USA promise to share this testimony all over the world once my husband return back home and today with all due respect i want to thank DR ORAL for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my husband I required help until i found DR ORAL email [email protected] a great spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured , me that I will get my husband back in just 24 hours time after the spell has been cast, in 24 hours later, my phone rang, and so surprisingly, it was my husband who has not called me for past a years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR ORAL released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I’m writing this testimony right now I’m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my Husband is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that’s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe. All thanks goes to DR ORAL for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too email him on,[email protected] or contact him on is +2349031111198 Read Less

  • ILLANA

    March 6, 2019 at 9:08 pm
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    Few hours was enough for DR.ZABAZA to make my lover change his mind and return back to me, Thank you DR.ZABAZA for the great work […] Read MoreFew hours was enough for DR.ZABAZA to make my lover change his mind and return back to me, Thank you DR.ZABAZA for the great work you did for me when my lover broke my heart. DR.ZABAZA was able to bring my lover that left for about three weeks back to me within few hours that i contacted him. Contact DR.ZABAZA on [email protected] or better still you can give DR.ZABAZA a call or What APP on +2348182620374 for a better understanding for what i just said about him.. There is no any other person that can fix your relationship or marriage problem than DR.ZABAZA Read Less

  • Cindy

    March 11, 2019 at 11:17 pm
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    My husband and I have been married for over 10 years. We met when I was 18 and he was 21. We’ve been through a […] Read MoreMy husband and I have been married for over 10 years. We met when I was 18 and he was 21. We’ve been through a lot emotionally together. There were several HUGE fights and painful situations in our marriage, but we always seemed to come out stronger on the other side. Out of the blue my husband just sprung the divorce talk on me, I was totally depressed until I found Dr.Todd website online and i ordered for a Love spell. You won’t believe my husband called me at the exact time this spell caster finished his spell work in 24hours. I was totally amazed! He is wonderful and his spells work so fast. His contact: [email protected] https://manifestspellcast.wordpress.com WhatsApp: +27613087679 Read Less

  • Maggie

    March 12, 2019 at 6:59 pm
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    This is my testimony about the good work of Dr Benson who help me.... I'm Maggie Andrea from USA. And am sorry for putting this […] Read MoreThis is my testimony about the good work of Dr Benson who help me.... I'm Maggie Andrea from USA. And am sorry for putting this on net but i will have to by this world top spell caster that brought back my husband which left me out for past 3 years, i eventually met this man on a blog site posting by one of is client for help, i explained everything to him and he told me about a spell caster that he had heard about and he gave me an email address to write to the spell caster to tell him my problems. In just 2 days, my husband was back to me. I just want to say thank you to this truthful and sincere spell caster, sir all you told have come to pass and thank you sir. Please i want to tell everyone who is looking for any solution to problem, i advice you to kindly consult this spell caster, he is real,he is powerful and whatever the spell caster tell is what will happen, because all what the spell caster told me came to pass. You can kindly contact him on: his email address is [email protected] com or directly on whats-app +2349023727004 Read Less

  • Jenn

    March 12, 2019 at 7:05 pm
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    I was just curious, when you and your husband reconciled and he came home to you all, was it super awkward at first after a […] Read MoreI was just curious, when you and your husband reconciled and he came home to you all, was it super awkward at first after a while apart or was it mostly smooth to work together as a team and whole family again? Read Less

  • MONIQUE

    March 21, 2019 at 9:09 pm
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    Getting what you want is not an act of desperation but an act to satisfy ones want, It was the quest of satisfying my wants […] Read MoreGetting what you want is not an act of desperation but an act to satisfy ones want, It was the quest of satisfying my wants that prompted me to contact Dr.Zabaza for a permanent solution for my relationship troubles. I have been a relationship for the past four years but my lover keeps coming up with excuses for delaying the marriage plans, And this constantly keeps me worried but i was very happy to have read about DR.ZABAZA and how he has miraculously saved other relationships. I contacted Dr.Zabaza about nine days ago and i must say since then my lover has been very eager for us to get married as matter of fact he was wants me pregnant asap. What App/Call +2348182620374 and [email protected] those are the details you can get in touch with DR.ZABAZA Read Less

  • MONIQUE

    March 21, 2019 at 9:11 pm
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    Getting what you want is not an act of desperation but an act to satisfy ones want, It was the quest of satisfying my wants […] Read MoreGetting what you want is not an act of desperation but an act to satisfy ones want, It was the quest of satisfying my wants that prompted me to contact Dr.Zabaza for a permanent solution for my relationship troubles. I have been a relationship for the past four years but my lover keeps coming up with excuses for delaying the marriage plans, And this constantly keeps me worried but i was very happy to have read about DR.ZABAZA and how he has miraculously saved other relationships. I contacted Dr.Zabaza about nine days ago and i must say since then my lover has been very eager for us to get married as matter of fact he was wants me pregnant asap. What App/Call +2348182620374 and [email protected] those are the details you can get in touch with DR.ZABAZA Read Less

  • Kettia Pierre

    April 15, 2019 at 11:18 am
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    Wow. What a beautiful article.

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