July 9, 2025
I’ve Been Told To Not Compare
I’ve been told countless times not to compare when it comes to my two oldest boys.
Two years apart. Now 14 and 12.
When the older one was born, I knew. I knew in my heart something was different. I could feel it.
He never slept.
His words didn’t come.
The world seemed to terrify him.
He never learned to play.
Other kids didn’t interest him.
The younger one…the opposite.
He slept. He cooed and smiled. He learned to talk and play and make friends effortlessly.
Don’t compare, the world told me.
It was impossible at times.
Brothers. The same. But not.
Last night, each of them played in a baseball game.
The younger one…12U Travel Ball. A playoff game. And they won. It was the best.
The older brother…an adaptive Miracle League Baseball game. Brightly colored wiffle bats. A tee. Buddies from a local church to help. Not a baseball glove on the field.
They won too. Although we didn’t keep score. We never do. But we laugh. And high five. It’s sorta the best.
Look at them…
Just two brothers, headed to their baseball games.
This photo is my new favorite.
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