A Beautiful Combination

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My son,

I like to write you these little notes so that one day, when I’m old and gray, and my memory isn’t so good, I can remember you. Your life. And us.

You are 11. You are a tween. An in-between.

When you were diagnosed with autism all those years ago, and the future felt confusing, maybe even a little bit scary, I would wonder what you would be like at this age.

Because the teenage years can be interesting. And autism, well it muddles the edges. There are no ‘what to expect at this age’ books written for you.

And in a way…there is so much beauty in that. See you get to write your own.

Tonight I asked you to come sit by the campfire with us but you were far too busy. And mom and dad are a little boring. There’s my teenager.

But instead of playing video games you are watching multiple iPads. One with the history of the great American railway. And the other with Dora the Explorer. It’s a fascinating combination.

An old soul and a fresh one mixed together.

You have six blankets.
You dressed yourself today.
You held my hand when we walked up the driveway today.
You used your speech device to tell me you were frustrated this morning by your brother.
I wiped your mouth. I put your shoes on the right feet.
You asked your brother and his friend to swim with you.
You will be in bed by 8:30 and not a second later.

A beautiful combination of so many things.

And just moments ago, you sat outside on the driveway and watched the neighborhood kids play baseball. Never joining in. Perfectly content to w

It’s amazing kid. The way you move between two worlds.

The way you live so fearlessly. The way you are growing up before my eyes.

The way you lead me into these next phases of your life. And gently remind me that it’s ok. It’s ok to be different. It’s amazing really.

You are waiting for Dora to call you on the phone. You’ve reminded me 126 times tonight. And each time I smile. Because you asking me for things was a dream of mine for so long.

Love, mom

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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