I am an Observer of Autism

I saw something recently that said if you are not autistic you are merely an observer of autism.

I absolutely believe this to be true. I do not know what it is like to feel the world as my children do, I am not a martyr because I parent autistic children, and I am not an expert on autism.

I observe as my daughter carefully pours sand in her hair not worrying about those around her. I let her do it, even if she is covered in dirt, because it makes her happy.

I watch as my son flips his entire body upside down to watch T.V. wondering what it is like to take in information this way. On occasion I have joined him flipping my body upside down as he laughs in delight that I am joining him.

I observe the troubles with changes in routine, loud noises, over stimulation from the outside world, and communication barriers.

Do I know more then I did? Yes.

Do I know everything? Absolutely not.

Will I continue to be an observer because they deserve to have someone who is trying to understand them with their whole heart? Yes.

Written by, Tabitha Cabrera

Tabitha Cabrera, lives in Arizona with her husband, and two beautiful children. She works as an Attorney and enjoys spending her time in a public service role. The family loves nature and ventures outdoors as much possible. Come check out her little nature babies. She writes about their autism journey at peaceofautism.com, also on Facebook and Instagram.

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