He Made up for It

Yesterday when I was talking about the chapters in my book, someone asked about Cooper’s relationship with his dad. And if I touched on it in my writing.

The person then asked a follow up question about affection. ‘Does Cooper show affection to his dad? Has he always?’

The answer is no…he hasn’t always shown affection outwardly. Coops was more of a lone wolf when he was younger. And it was hard at times. Lonely even. We wanted so desperately to engage with our beautiful son.

But his dad made up for it. Hugs and snuggles. Wrestling and tickles. Shoulder rides too. He did everything he could to show him how loved he was. And still today.

I always say we loved Cooper through the hardest years. And we brought him into our world the best we could.

I grabbed this excerpt from my book talking about the early years and affection…

‘That night after Cooper fell asleep, I crawled into bed with him, something I would do for years to come. It was rare that he was ever still, and on that night, I needed to feel him, breathe him in, and will all my love into him. I wrapped my arms around him and held him as tightly as I could. And I prayed.

Some nights Jamie would lie with him too. Even beat me to it. I asked him once why he did it, wondering if he prayed like me. His answer was simple. “I need him to know I am here.’

So much of life is about patience. Waiting. And not ever giving up.

Having a child with delays is like that too. We wait. We give grace. And we never give up.

And we love them through the hard.

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