To the Mama Whose Baby Isn’t Starting School Today

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To the mama whose baby isn’t starting school today.

To the parent who is wondering if they should take the picture. And wondering if they should celebrate just another day.

To the dad whose sending some kids back to school but not the others.

To the parent feeling a twinge of sadness today. Or a lot.

I understand

Your child doesn’t go to a typical school. They go to therapy. There are no grade levels. Just continuous time. Or maybe they do but they aren’t really in a grade. On paper yes, but not really.

I get it.

Maybe you have other children who are starting today. You walked them to the bus stop. And you wonder how time is moving so quickly for them yet seemingly frozen for others.

Or maybe this is your only child and you peek at Facebook and see the first day of school photos and feel that pain in your gut.

I see you.

I want to tell you to take the picture. Take it. Post it. Share it with grandparents. Put it in the baby book. Put it in a frame.

Celebrate today. Because our kids deserve it. All of them.

Celebrate second grade and learning to read and do math. And celebrate years of therapy and learning to sit and say first words. It’s all amazing.

Why you wonder? What’s the point? Your child doesn’t care or understand?

Do it for you. Do it for them. Do it because you care. And it’s ok to care. I want you to know that. Don’t let any person, family member, friend, blogger, or bully tell you that you shouldn’t care. You are the parent. And you are human. You should care.

It’s ok to wish they understood. Or were starting fourth grade today.

But more importantly, it’s ok to celebrate exactly where they are right now.

I have one starting second grade. And one continuing therapy that is helping him become the best version of himself. Neither is less than. Remember that.

Take the photo. Celebrate our amazing kids.

Neither is less than.

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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