It’s the Little Things that Matter

You think the big things are the most important. The ones that will make the most impact.

Saying words. Making a friend. Joining a team. Going to school. Graduating.

Those are the milestones we work towards. Right?

And yes, of course they are important. But as I grow into being the best mom for my son, and watch him grow into himself, I realize it’s the little things that make the biggest difference in our world.

That make the most impact on our every day life and sanity.

A smile. Eye contact. Waving at a stranger. A clap after a job well done.

A hug. A high five. Greeting someone when they walk into the room.

Seeing a video of an elephant, laughing uncontrollably, and showing mama and demanding that she be an elephant too.

Running to dad, gasping, and giving him the biggest hug when he gets home from work.

Grabbing brother’s hand and having him lead him through a parking lot.

Understanding it’s dad’s birthday, going to a store, picking out a cake, 2 balloons and a card, waiting in the checkout line patiently while mom pays and walking safely to the car. Something we’ve never done before.

Understanding when mom says, put your shoes on, grab your blanket, and wait by the door. And doing it. Listening. Waiting. Having the motor skills to put shoes on.

Saying ‘uh-oh’ when mom spills her coffee and then giggling. Touching his baby brother’s feather hair, smelling it and eventually giving it a huge, blowout, slobbery kiss.

Opening and closing a car door. Reminding mom when she puts the car in reverse that she forgot your seatbelt. Then laughing.

Using a fork to eat lasagna. Getting dressed. Drinking from a cup.

When your child is first diagnosed, you think it won’t be ok until they talk. And play. And understand. And be like every other child their age.

So, you wait. You set your sights and heart on the big goals. But you feel like you are always waiting. For the huge things. Because then it will be ok.

Listen to me when I say…work towards the little things. Because they will change your life.

The smiles. The hugs. The eye contact. Putting shoes on. Grabbing a snack. Acknowledging a sibling. Going to a store and buying a balloon.

Work on those things. The rest will fall into place.

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