Who Wouldn’t Want a Brother like you?
To my son on his 3rd birthday:
You’ve been through so much in your first three years of life. And no I’m not just talking about the eight surgeries you had before you were two years old. Or the daily therapy sessions and weekly doctor appointments.
I’m talking about your relationship with your two siblings.
Your brother has Autism and is sensitive to touch. Your sister prefers to be by herself and likes her space.
I see you making friends everywhere we go. The park, the grocery store, restaurants, whoever comes to our door.
You just want to be accepted and play with little people like you.
I know it’s hard to have two siblings and not being able to play with them like you want.
They’re small like you so it’s only natural to want to hug them, kiss them, and talk to them.
I understand you just want to give your brother high-fives and fist bumps without him stressing out because you touched him.
I know it’s difficult to understand why he does certain things. Screaming when he’s excited because he doesn’t know how to talk. Hitting his head out of frustration when you sit by him.
You just want to fit in and be with him.
I know you just want to play with your sister and laugh with her without her crying. She’s still a little young but sometimes I pray that she starts talking for your sake.
I know it may be hard to see it now, but you do have a huge impact on both of them.
Your brother gets upset with you when you cry. He doesn’t like anything wet, yet he watches as you have fun playing with your water table. He hears you having fun and moves closer to you, because that’s his way of being a part of the fun.
You are making a difference in his life.
Your sister likes to be close to you and rub against you. She loves when you make her laugh with your silly sounds and when you run around the house.
You may be the middle child.
You may be the only one who talks.
You may be the only one who can walk on your own.
You may the most independent right now. But they both will get there.
I know it’s probably slower than you’d like, but I promise you will have good relationships with your siblings one day.
Your caring personality fits right in with your brother’s empathy for others and your sister’s sensitive nature.
But for right now you’re showing them the way.
You’re the one who’s teaching his brother that brushing his teeth is fun. You’re the one who’s showing his sister how to laugh and be silly.
You are a true example of what forgiveness is.
You never give up trying to be their friend. Your perseverance is admirable.
God gave you them for a reason. They need you. They need your high energy and fun personality. Your big laugh and silly charisma.
Who wouldn’t want a brother like you?
Written by, Kate Anderson
Hi, I’m Kate Anderson. I live in Colorado with my husband and three kids. You can follow my blog at www.thisspecialjourney.com
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